Have been thinking over the same thing these days. Why am I doing things for no reason? I'm doing things that I know it won't benefit me at all..
Thinking on the positive side: the kind-hearted me will tell myself, don't ask for any return when you do anything, whether it is to friends, partner or yourself. You will be much better off if you have helped someone. I do I do.
Thinking on the negative side: When I need help, where are all these people? Where are the helpful hands where I wished to see when I'm in the need of help. Not only needing help, but there are many many other things that you will feel upset when you don't see them or when they tend not to place you at a more important position.
I personally think that, I'll do whatever that I can do to help anyone out there, even if it's a stranger. I feel contented after the help. I feel happy when people do say thanks to me, showing that they appreciate that. I offer advise and support to my friends sincerely from my heart when they need my advise/help or my comment, though some people may not take it. In the end, I may be the bad person though, where I've experienced before. And that is where you don't see any return from it but on the other hand these people doing things that annoyed you.
Sometimes, I'm kind of like not understanding why some people can be so ''not geh bo''. (I don't really mean the ''geh bo lar..) And I mean like when I'm asking your opinion, you will never give me any advise but only saying, up to you la; ''Yer, I don't know wo''; ''Har, you better not ask me!''; ''Cincai la... (deep inside their mind they would think non of their business also!).
Sometimes, I just don't understand why people will find me just to get some advise. Like why Pui Yee kept asking me whether she should take CBF or not. In fact, we only get closer like few months ago. Why she is not asking others that she knew and supposed to know that these people know her better than me? I give sincere/better advises than anybody else? I don't think so. Maybe I'm kind of straightforward, that's why I'm targeted. But when I get to listen things from other people of what she has said (obviously things that I never said before and she was like twist and turned what I said), it just made me so pissed off! (I do wonder whether she did misunderstand me or not but most probably not. Because I've been advising and telling her the same thing again and again!!!)
No matter how, the conclusion is that, do whatever you can. Help whoever you want but take the risk of not getting any return!! Only blame yourself if the person annoys you even if you have helped her! Be as not geh bo as possible. Live in the world like people's business is non of my business unless you reasonably think you should help that fellow. If not, be as not geh bo as possible. I wonder whether I can be that or not.
Thinking on the positive side: the kind-hearted me will tell myself, don't ask for any return when you do anything, whether it is to friends, partner or yourself. You will be much better off if you have helped someone. I do I do.
Thinking on the negative side: When I need help, where are all these people? Where are the helpful hands where I wished to see when I'm in the need of help. Not only needing help, but there are many many other things that you will feel upset when you don't see them or when they tend not to place you at a more important position.
I personally think that, I'll do whatever that I can do to help anyone out there, even if it's a stranger. I feel contented after the help. I feel happy when people do say thanks to me, showing that they appreciate that. I offer advise and support to my friends sincerely from my heart when they need my advise/help or my comment, though some people may not take it. In the end, I may be the bad person though, where I've experienced before. And that is where you don't see any return from it but on the other hand these people doing things that annoyed you.
Sometimes, I'm kind of like not understanding why some people can be so ''not geh bo''. (I don't really mean the ''geh bo lar..) And I mean like when I'm asking your opinion, you will never give me any advise but only saying, up to you la; ''Yer, I don't know wo''; ''Har, you better not ask me!''; ''Cincai la... (deep inside their mind they would think non of their business also!).
Sometimes, I just don't understand why people will find me just to get some advise. Like why Pui Yee kept asking me whether she should take CBF or not. In fact, we only get closer like few months ago. Why she is not asking others that she knew and supposed to know that these people know her better than me? I give sincere/better advises than anybody else? I don't think so. Maybe I'm kind of straightforward, that's why I'm targeted. But when I get to listen things from other people of what she has said (obviously things that I never said before and she was like twist and turned what I said), it just made me so pissed off! (I do wonder whether she did misunderstand me or not but most probably not. Because I've been advising and telling her the same thing again and again!!!)
No matter how, the conclusion is that, do whatever you can. Help whoever you want but take the risk of not getting any return!! Only blame yourself if the person annoys you even if you have helped her! Be as not geh bo as possible. Live in the world like people's business is non of my business unless you reasonably think you should help that fellow. If not, be as not geh bo as possible. I wonder whether I can be that or not.
